tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-26947829668733792722024-03-13T07:43:20.772-04:00How to Make Your Church Autism-FriendlyAn Autism Blog by Stephen J. Bedard.SJBedardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02858451603363183786noreply@blogger.comBlogger219125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694782966873379272.post-36034219027753068112017-01-02T14:19:00.004-05:002017-01-02T14:19:50.040-05:00Major Blog ChangeI'm shutting down this blog. That does not mean that all my autism blogging is over. All of the content here and all future autism posts will now be found on my main website <a href="http://www.stephenjbedard.com/category/autism-blog/">here</a>. Make sure to check it out, as well as all the other resources on my site.Stephen J Bedardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17688654360609587166noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694782966873379272.post-47924579526811850172016-12-30T12:39:00.003-05:002016-12-30T12:39:50.697-05:00Meet Our SonIn the second episode of my autism podcast, I introduce you to our son. He has taught us much about autism and life in general. Here is a little about our story.<br />
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<br />Stephen J Bedardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17688654360609587166noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694782966873379272.post-38843803424799095102016-12-29T12:45:00.005-05:002016-12-29T12:45:48.741-05:00Introduction to the Autism Dad PodcastOf all the roles I have, one of the most important is that of an autism dad. I have interviewed people about autism on my <a href="http://www.hopesreason.podbean.com/">regular podcast</a> but I have felt like there was a need to gather all my autism content into one podcast. The result is the autism dad podcast. You can listen to the first episode below, which outlines the goals for this podcast.<br />
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One aspect of working through ideas about disabilities is to develop a theology of disability. The Bible has some important things to say about disabilities. But how do they fit together and what is the main message?<br />
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One of the best resources I have come across is <i><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Disability-Gospel-Brokenness-Display-Grace/dp/1433530457/ref=as_sl_pc_qf_sp_asin_til?tag=stejbed-20&linkCode=w00&linkId=5d1c5ff883729f4f9b66084335fdb00e&creativeASIN=1433530457">Disability and the Gospel</a></i> by Michael S. Beates. Beates comes at this topic not just as a theologian, but as a father of a daughter with a disability.<br />
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In the book, Beates works through both Old and New Testament teachings about disabilities. He also looks at ancient and modern thought on disabilities, both from a Christian and non-Christian perspective.<br />
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Beates provides a very helpful summary of where theology has interacted with disabilities. At times it has been less than helpful, but overall, there are good resources that help us to understand where disabilities fit in God's kingdom.<br />
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If you are wrestling with a theological understanding of disabilities, I highly recommend <i>Disability and the Gospel</i>.Stephen J Bedardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17688654360609587166noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694782966873379272.post-42947499121029002992016-12-22T10:01:00.000-05:002016-12-22T10:01:54.162-05:00The 21st Chromosone<iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="360" mozallowfullscreen="" src="https://player.vimeo.com/video/97989321" webkitallowfullscreen="" width="640"></iframe>Stephen J Bedardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17688654360609587166noreply@blogger.com6tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694782966873379272.post-54496435067336360222016-12-20T16:42:00.001-05:002016-12-20T16:42:39.871-05:00Autism: Predicting Overload<iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="315" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/OdvFuVAypp0" width="560"></iframe>Stephen J Bedardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17688654360609587166noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694782966873379272.post-24773687349714544772016-12-12T15:46:00.001-05:002016-12-12T15:46:24.449-05:00Confessions of an Autism MomI am so thankful for my wife and the way she is able to put into words our experience as autism parents. Amanda recently wrote a post on her blog, describing exactly what I have been feeling lately.<br />
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Christmas time will always be a time of remembering for me. Our first child was due on New Years day but I had a miscarriage and it never came to be. I was quite pregnant with Logan by the time my due date for our first child came. We light a candle and whisper love to our Kennedy as each new year begins. I had hopes and dreams for this child I was carrying, this promise and gift from God. Promises and gifts come in all shapes and sizes, Logan is no different.</blockquote>
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You can read the full post <a href="https://ramblingsofamother.wordpress.com/2016/12/11/reflections-and-growing-grief/">here</a>. I encourage you to check some of her other posts. She is a much better blogger than I am.<br />
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<br />Stephen J Bedardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17688654360609587166noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694782966873379272.post-31956746906991665682016-12-10T13:42:00.000-05:002016-12-10T13:42:00.050-05:00Dear Future MomA heartwarming message from 15 people with Down syndrome to a future mom.<br />
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In the province that I live in, it is the law that all public buildings, including churches, are accessible to those with disabilities. We shouldn't need the law to make us accessible. What people sometimes forget, is that being accessible means more than just working with physical disabilities.<br />
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It is likely that if someone in a wheelchair wanted to attend your church, you would make sure that there was an elevator or a ramp. But what about those with developmental disabilities or mental illness, are you accessible for them?<br />
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One way to make your services accessible to those who experience anxiety is to provide audio or video versions of the messages on your church website. Obviously we want people to attend in in person. But there are times that anxiety levels are too high to sit in pews and be surrounded by people. By having sermons on the website, people can still benefit from the teaching.<br />
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What other ways can you make your church accessible for people of all needs?<br />
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<br />Stephen J Bedardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17688654360609587166noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694782966873379272.post-36917466319504464122016-12-07T11:28:00.000-05:002016-12-07T11:28:06.111-05:00He Came DownIf you are having trouble getting into the Christmas spirit, you need to watch this video. It is about a nativity play put on by children with Down Syndrome.<br />
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People with disabilities are too often the target for bullying. Those who have communication or cognitive challenges are particularly vulnerable as they may have difficulty reporting the bullying.<br />
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Ideally, the church would be a safe place away from bullying for people of all abilities. Unfortunately, we do not live in an ideal world. People feel insecure and insignificant and so they attempt to compensate by treating others badly. It shouldn't happen but it does.<br />
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Do you have people with disabilities in your church?<br />
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Be active and not reactive. Instead of waiting to respond to a bullying incident, begin the conversations now. Do teaching with your staff and volunteers. Have the discussion with your youth group and Sunday school. Work hard to make churches a safe place for all people.<br />
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When our two children with autism lived with us, both had sleep issues but in different ways. Abby was just messed up when it came to sleep. It was not unusual for her to get up between 1 and 3 am.<br />
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Logan generally slept well, getting up around 7 am. Unless someone said something.<br />
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If in the evening, we or someone else, mentioned that something would happen the next day, there would be a problem.<br />
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"Logan, Grandma is coming for a visit tomorrow."<br />
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"Logan, Abby's birthday is tomorrow."<br />
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If anything was going to happen the next day, Logan would get up extremely early. Sometimes midnight and sometimes he wouldn't sleep at all.<br />
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We came up with the policy that NOTHING was going to happen tomorrow, no matter what was really going to happen. It was easier to train ourselves than others. It is natural to share the excitement of what was coming. Sometimes the event was so minor, that it did not seem to be a big deal. But we had to cut off people and re-educate people about what was allowed to be said.<br />
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Anticipation was something too disruptive to Logan's sleep.<br />
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And that is a glimpse of autism.Stephen J Bedardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17688654360609587166noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694782966873379272.post-88113963979845132322016-11-25T13:25:00.002-05:002016-11-25T13:25:56.651-05:00What is Scripting?<iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="315" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/vtbbmeyh5rk" width="560"></iframe>Stephen J Bedardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17688654360609587166noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694782966873379272.post-38866077507541832192016-11-18T19:37:00.000-05:002016-11-18T19:37:15.159-05:00What is an Autistic Meltdown?<iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="315" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/FhUDyarzqXE" width="560"></iframe>Stephen J Bedardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17688654360609587166noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694782966873379272.post-82629162771908633982016-11-16T19:59:00.003-05:002016-11-16T19:59:49.037-05:00Autism Spectrum Disorder Infographic<div class="visually_embed">
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I think that there has been some improvement in the church's willingness to embrace and minister to people with autism and their families. But often the people with autism that the church has in mind are those on the severe end of the spectrum.<br />
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What about those with mild autism?<br />
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These are the people who have what was once called Asperger's Syndrome but is now just mild autism. You may not even know that they have autism. These are people that have intense interests that they want to talk about all the time. These are the people who struggle to know what is socially appropriate. You likely think of them as quirky rather than autistic.<br />
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There is a certain amount of compassion for those who are on the severe end of the autism spectrum. But those who are more mild do not necessarily benefit from this compassion. They may be easily left out and isolated.<br />
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Remember that autism does not always look the same. Have the same love for that teenager who always talks about airplanes as you do for the child who is nonverbal.<br />
<br />SJBedardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02858451603363183786noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694782966873379272.post-47614624367043584342016-11-05T22:40:00.001-04:002016-11-05T22:40:35.777-04:00An Autistic EveningOne of the purposes of this blog is to increase awareness about autism. As much as I love to share the positive experiences, the reality is that there are some difficult times. I have no desire to use this as a platform for complaining, but I believe sharing the reality of autism will help people to understand what parents go through.<br />
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We just made a major change in how our visits with Logan and Abby go (they live in a group home 1.5 hours away). Previously, the group home brought them to our house Friday nights and I brought them back Saturday mornings.<br />
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Starting today, I went early in the morning to get them, with the plan that the group home would come and pick them up in the evening. That is two major changes for Logan and Abby. They are no longer staying overnight and I am now bringing them here instead of taking them back.<br />
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They actually did very well. Our visit was fine, with lots of laughter. Even when the van pulled up to get them, Logan and Abby got there stuff together and went out to the vehicle. Everything was going smoothly.<br />
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The worker tried to compensate by putting Logan in a different seat than normal. That was one too many changes for Abby (she was already stretched pretty bad). Abby got upset, which got Logan upset, which made Abby more upset and on it went. There was a lot of crying and shouting. They were both in meltdown mode and they were feeding off each other.<br />
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There was no getting them both in the van. The only thing we could do was for me to take Abby into the backyard and jump with her on the trampoline, while Amanda got Logan into the van. They then took off, while I got Abby into our car with the promise of a stop at Tim Horton's. Then off we went for my second round-trip today.<br />
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This is what autism is like. Changes in routine can easily lead to meltdowns. People with autism can feed off each other when upset.<br />
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Amanda and I were able to work as a team to deal with the situation. Not every parent is able to do this.<br />
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Again, none of this is meant as complaining. This is simply the life of autism parents. But of you want to support families such as ours, you need to know what life looks like.SJBedardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02858451603363183786noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694782966873379272.post-24852527709330796592016-11-05T12:07:00.002-04:002016-11-05T12:08:02.090-04:00How to Talk to a Person With Autism Who Seems to Ignore You<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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If you tried to talk to our son, you might find that he would avoid eye contact and probably would hum while you spoke. I suspect that our son is not unique in this. In fact, there is a young man in our church who is very similar. What should you do if you find yourself in such a situation? Here are some pointers.<br />
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<li>Don't force them to give you eye contact. Parents might do this on occasion, but there usually is a reason why they are avoiding eye contact. You might find that if you don't push the issue that they might give you more eye contact as they get to know you more.</li>
<li>Don't raise your voice. Unless there are additional hearing deficits, yelling will make them less likely to listen to you.</li>
<li>Just because they seem to be ignoring you, don't assume that they are not listening.</li>
<li>Talk to the person with autism and not the person with them. Address them directly.</li>
<li>If they don't answer a question, don't keep repeating it.</li>
<li>Look at them directly and smile.</li>
<li>Don't speak to them like they are a little child (unless they are a little child). Many people with autism who are nonverbal have normal or above normal intelligence. Do not judge their intellect by their communication difficulties.</li>
<li>Don't give up, no matter how much they may seem to ignore you. Greet them with the same enthusiasm every time you see them. It really matters.</li>
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SJBedardhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02858451603363183786noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694782966873379272.post-80250159590202826622016-11-02T09:08:00.000-04:002016-11-02T09:08:10.945-04:00What is an Autism Service Dog?Many people have heard of guide dogs for the blind, but what is an autism service dog? The principle is the same, in that the dog wears a jacket that allows the person to go into public places.<br />
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One of the main purposes of an autism service dog is safety. Many children with autism are runners and safety is a big issue. The child with autism is tethered to the dog and so can only go as far as the tether will let them.<br />
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We had a service dog for our son and it was incredible the freedom that he gave us. I could go for walks with Logan and go to the grocery store with him, and not fear that he was going to take off.<br />
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For many children with autism, the dog also provides a comfort factor. I used to take Logan and Halo (our dog) to a men's breakfast at our church, and even if they were not tethered, Logan would be much calmer if Halo was there.<br />
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<b>How can a church help?</b><br />
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One way is to make sure that service dogs are welcome in your building. Public places are required to allow access but that doesn't stop some places from trying to stop it. We were once asked to leave a store even though we were well within our rights. It is a good idea to have this conversation with your leadership <i>before</i> a family with a service dog shows up.<br />
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Another way that churches can help is to find out if there is a local family seeking to get a dog. The dogs are expensive (at the time we got our dog over a decade ago, it was $12,000) and families need to raise their own funds. It would be amazing if churches helped do fund raising for these families.<br />
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The final thing is simply to be aware of their purpose and role.<br />
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There are many organizations that provide service dogs, but the organization we worked with was National Service Dogs. You can find out more about service dogs at their <a href="http://www.nsd.on.ca/">website</a>.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13305648436664242187noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694782966873379272.post-35526080864825226682016-10-29T20:27:00.000-04:002016-10-29T20:27:11.402-04:00Did Jesus Have a Disability?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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People with disabilities have not always felt valuable. This includes the context of the church. Are disabilities just a reminder of all that is not right in the world?<br />
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But what if Jesus had a disability? I'm not suggesting that he had autism or was lame. But consider this passage:<br />
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<i>In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus:</i><br />
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<i>Who, being in very nature God,</i><br />
<i> did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage;</i><br />
<i>rather, he made himself nothing</i><br />
<i> by taking the very nature of a servant,</i><br />
<i> being made in human likeness.</i><br />
<i>And being found in appearance as a man,</i><br />
<i> he humbled himself</i><br />
<i> by becoming obedient to death—</i><br />
<i> even death on a cross!</i><br />
<i>Therefore God exalted him to the highest place</i><br />
<i> and gave him the name that is above every name,</i><br />
<i>that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow,</i><br />
<i> in heaven and on earth and under the earth,</i><br />
<i>and every tongue acknowledge that Jesus Christ is Lord,</i><br />
<i> to the glory of God the Father. </i>(Philippians 2:5-11)<br />
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Many people see the cross as the greatest sacrifice that Jesus experienced. But what about the incarnation? God the Son became a human being!<br />
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One of the first heresies was not doubts about Jesus' divinity but about his humanity. Some could not believe that Jesus really became human and that he must have only seemed to be human.<br />
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But the incarnation teaches that Jesus really became human. He emptied himself. If taking on humanity with all of its limitations is not a disability, what is?<br />
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People with disabilities should not feel out of place in churches. They should feel right at home because the foundation of Christianity is about the worship of the disabled God.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13305648436664242187noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2694782966873379272.post-81203273007012171722016-10-28T10:28:00.000-04:002016-10-28T10:28:33.161-04:005 Ways to Support a Family With Autism<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Perhaps you know a family that has someone with autism and you desire to support them. But what can you do? I would like to offer five things that you could do to help this family.<br />
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1. Treat the family with love and respect rather than pity.<br />
2. Provide some respite by watching their child so that the rest of the family can do something they have been hoping to do.<br />
3. Take the siblings of the child with autism out for a fun activity.<br />
4. Talk to the family member with autism and treat them with respect, even if they seem to ignore you or are not listening.<br />
5. Pray for the entire family. You can tell the family you are praying if you wish. But do <i>not</i> tell them you are praying for healing from autism and that they should expect "normal" any time soon.<br />
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<b>Bonus Item:</b> Educate yourself on autism so that you can speak to them intentionally. It might not seem like a big thing, but it is.<br />
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I may be too presumptuous in making a judgment about all families with disabilities, but I'm at least confident that this applies to a good majority of families. I believe that the biggest need for families with disabilities is respite.<br />
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What is respite? Respite is when someone watches your child so that the family can either get some rest or do some activity that they wouldn't normally do. It could be for a couple of hours or even for a weekend. This is not babysitting, as caring for a person with a disability is more complex.<br />
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The biggest need is not finding money to pay someone, the biggest need is finding someone to do the respite. There were many times that we had funding to pay for respite but had no one who would do respite for us. I have recently heard of other families going through the same thing.<br />
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Why is it so difficult? I assume that many people are intimidated by the idea of caring for a person with a disability. While it isn't for everyone, it is also not as overwhelming as some assume.<br />
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If you are a church that is looking for a way to minister to families with disabilities, offering respite would be a great place to start. There is a huge need and actually doing it is not that difficult. Consider how your church might be able to make a difference in this area.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13305648436664242187noreply@blogger.com0